So The First Question: What do you want? What do you really want? Has to be followed up with a few to refine it. But it’s then essential that you ask the second transformational question:
HOW WILL YOU KNOW WHEN YOU”VE GOT IT?
When someone has stated a goal and then refined it to eliminate what they don’t want and has finally gotten to what they DO want it’s also vitally important to find out what their evidence will be that they are making progress, or that they have achieved the goal and can now go even further.
Well this question gets them to think into the future. To imagine themselves having the new thing, change or behavior, and what that will look like, feel like, and sound like. They will really connect to the outcome AND they will be motivated s they go by being able to notice their progress.
So a great series of follow up questions might be:
What will you see when you’ve achieved that?
What will it sound like when you’ve achieved that?
How will you feel when you’ve reached that?
This engages both the conscious mind and the part of the mind that works on and “notices” things without our conscious awareness.
That’s a powerful part of the brain to engage and to have working on a project of change and improvement.
So……HOW WILL YOU KNOW WHEN YOU BELIEVE THAT THESE TWO QUESTIONS CAN HELP YOU AND OTHERS TO ACHIEVE MASSIVE CHANGES AND POSITIVE BREAKTHROUGHS in the face of the human desire to stay where we are?