Tuesday , 31 January 2023

Success, Friends, and Critics – How To Save A Life

Having just had a birthday my mind wandered – as human minds do – to the thought of how quickly time can seem to pass. Where are you in the journey? Has it been good? Have you fulfilled the current purpose? Found your calling? Is there more?

Frankly, if I died today (from which I ask delivery) I would have had quite a ride in a short stay on the old terra firma. You can only imagine. And to be fair to my unusual life, your imagination is probably not sufficiently unleashed yet. But, I have a sense that there is so much more for me and for you. The dreams are endless and the passion for the variety of life is, well… significant.

But alas you say. The days seem so much the same. The work is hard and unvaried. My social life is like the early scenes from the movie Grounghog Day and I’m tired now all the time. Not to mention that your savings and investments seem so much less robust.

Here is the good news. There is a cure for the mundane, the ordinary, and the unfulfilling aspects of life. But it takes some strength of character combined with a significant dose of creativity. It means listening to music that you love (as well as to tribal music, classical, jazz, pop, R&B, Caribbean, ska – or something that isn’t your cup of tea- until you find the stuff of that genre that moves you, changes your brain and makes you think in a new way).

Worse yet, it seems that it may involve dancing – either publicly or privately to KC and The Sunshine Band’s “That’s The Way I Like It” or to Metro Station’s “Shake It”. There is also significant evidence that even hardened punk rockers and jazz sophisticats benefit from moving to Maroon 5’s “Makes Me Wonder” and Coldplay’s “Viva La Vida.”

Look. I am not happy about this either. It just seems to be part of the universal plan. I don’t make this stuff up.

You don’t have to believe me. But ignore the universal life force at your own risk.

It means allowing those relationships that poison your human experience to drift away and to surround yourself with people who are ahead of you. Whether in wealth, philanthropy, altruism and love – for you. It is true, that the habits of those with whom we spend time do influence us in profound and often unconscious ways – for good or for terribly bad.

It means doing something, however small, that you have always wanted to do but have never done.

It means ignoring your critics. They will always be there to criticize you so you can get that later, again, if you want to.

Success in business often means ignoring your fans, who want more of the same, and paying attention to those who spread the word. See Seth Godin’s success blog for more on this.

It almost certainly means paying much more attention to the client and the customer. To what they deeply fear and irrationally desire. That is where you can persuade and serve them the most.

It means becoming better at something that you have always been good at as well as something that seems strange or which causes fear or anxiety.

So what are you waiting for? Listen, dance, have a glass of wine or a cool pure water and revel in life and its infinite variety and opportunity. Oh, and listen to those songs. Remember to move it a little.

Dave Frees

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