Invest In Yourself

A few words on investing in your growth and the
quality of your life…

My buddy Perry Marshall recently asked his readers a question about
investing in themselves. And, it really got me thinking.

How much do you invest each month in yourself?

In learning the things that you need to take your business and
marketing to the next level of success and profitability?

In building the type of business or professional
practice that you really want?

And, in keeping yourself healthy, happy,
relaxed and fit?

You have to actually invest in all of them as it turns out, or
you become hopelessly out of balance and none of the areas of
your life are optimal.

And to “make matter worse” you have to usually invest time,
money and other resources. Turns out your Mom was wrong.
If you do it right you can buy happiness – the payments just not
ALL in money.

Most of us don’t spend enough and for that reason we get stuck
in one place. Often, we spend money experimenting, testing,
“trying different things” in our business and in our lives.

But there are lost opportunities there. What if you could find an expert,
a mentor, or a source of high quality information and cut that whole
period of trial and error short so that you started getting greater
levels of success (however you define it) earlier and more often and more
powerfully…what would that be worth?

When I got to law school, I soon discovered that I could probably learn
the important things through trial and error but it went waaaay faster
learning them from some of the top legal minds in the nation. Learning from
masters was a short cut to success.

But here’s the thing that I found and that Perry found: The better stuff, programs,
seminars, classes (or schools) cost more than the general pablum out there.
Often they cost 2 or 3 times more. But they work. You’re learning the very best
from the very best who take their knowledge and their teaching very seriously.

The crappy seminars, books, programs, courses, and materials never worked.
They contained the same old advice. They were general, often too simple, and
frequently useless. Nothing changed and the investment was a waste.

BUT…great mentors, teachers, seminars, programs, and content can get you
massive results much earlier than the books, tapes, dvds, programs and courses
that seem cheaper but are full of general and useless information.

In the end, the good stuff is way cheaper. This applies to trainers at the gym,
business mentors, coaches and consultants. And to great materials by proven
experts and teachers who get it done AND can teach you to do the same.

So today as I was talking about this people kept asking me “How much do you spend?”
It’s a big number, I spend to develop myself in many different areas, and it goes up the
bigger and more successful my businesses and practice become.

Why does it cost more? Haven’t I “learner enough?” why keep spending? Am I
a slow learner? No.

But, fewer and fewer people know more about the most important things
and the things I value than I do AND for that reason alone they can charge way
more for this high value knowledge. And guess what? The money I spent last
year made me able to pay for even better self development this year.

It’s a “vicious upward spiral of success.”

Now that doesn’t mean that I don’t have set backs. I do.

It doesn’t mean I always make more. Well I usually do but I often reinvest it
in my business, my team and in my family.

And let’s not overlook that.

I am advocating spending on yourself and those around you.

I am advocating spending on the business and personal aspects of your life.

The quality of your life is better when you’re giving to others, sharing with
loved ones and staying relaxed healty and fit. Clearly I can do better in
some of these areas but who else has taken a month to six weeks with the
kids to travel the world and the United States each year?

Yes I’m blessed but I made the “lucky” part by investing in myself and those
around me.

So how much? There’s no single answer but you need to stretch.
Stop spending on the same old stuff. Save up and get something at the
next level that tells you not just what to do but how to do it.

Even when I was a struggling young entrepreneur and lawyer I spent
a few hundred dollars a month (on average) going to programs, and buying
books and materials.

So where do you go to get this “training?

Get it from someone who has been successful in the area where you seek to
succeed. The spend will probably hurt a bit. But that makes it more likely
that you’ll act on the advice and information (or you’ll seem silly even to yourself).

Now if you like what I do and you want to take things to the next level, while
taming the chaos, consider my fall mastermind in Phoenix

http://www.3DaysToSuccess.com/ and if you want to learn more about starting
an information marketing business with the knowledge you’ve already developed
then come and learn from Mike Capuzzi and me at our upcoming events.

So visit the site or call Lisa at 610-933-8069.

If you’re a do it yourselfer and want the course I spent hundreds of thousands of
dollars learning and developing on the language patterns of persuasion and influence
then visit http://www.persuasion2profit.com/

Follow me on Facebook and Twitter as well.

Thanks! Be well and stay cool.
Dave

Think Like Tucker be HERE and NOW

Have you ever practiced an instrument (thinking you’ll play,
join a band, entertain friends) only to find you never performed
or did any of those things?

In business, I know many people who attend seminars, but books
and programs, perhaps even read them but then never build the business,
do the marketing, or make that breakthrough or change.

Have you been furiously saving or investing to have some future
enjoyment of life that might never happen?

I love to figure things out. It’s a part of how I’m built.

And, I am a keen observer of myself and other assorted
humans with our varied ways of living and viewing life.

I have had years of training, in a variety of situations
and from a variety of master for a variety of purposes.
This helps me to see things and to learn things.

But one thing that drives me “crazy” ( a little exaggeration
and poetic license here) is the guru who tells you what to
do to achieve some goal, desire, skill, or ability but
never tells you or helps you with the HOW.

So here we go. A thought experiment that might work for
you. That might get you to look at life in a new way and to
think about time, your skills, and how you live and enjoy life.

But first, a quote:

“We are very good at preparing to live, but not very good at living.
We know how to sacrifice ten years for a diploma and we are willing
to work very hard to get a job, a car, a house, and so on. But we have
difficulty remembering that we are alive in the present moment, the
only moment there is for us to be alive.” —Thich Nhat Hanh

Hmmmmmm. That does get one thinking.

So the same voice and the same words do not resonate with the same power
for each and every person. But this theme is echoed again and again by
people as different and diverse as his holiness the Dali Lama to lifestyle
design guru Tim Ferris (of The Four Hour Work Week Fame). The 4-Hour Workweek: Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Rich (Expanded and Updated) (Amazon affiliate link)

You’ve probably heard this before, thought about it, realized the power of the thought,
and even wanted to do something about it. To stop preparing, and to begin living life.

But, as is so often the case we learn something but not enough to do anything about
it. Life starts pushing in and we forget about the breakthrough, about being here and now
and we go back to planning for life rather than living it.

Heck, after a life threatening spinal cord injury I swore to myself that
life was too short, that I would never allow the mundane and the future to
deprive me of the now.

Yet, remembering that is a constant struggle. Life powerfully tries to
focus us on the past and the future. we are haunted by the past and
lured by planning for the future. It’s the nature of the beast.

But there are ways.

Here’s a couple of thought experiments (Mind Hacks) to get yourself to
really move toward change, and to be here and now, more often.

But remember, we make real choices to be here and now way less frequently
than any of us would care to admit. So start being happy with even modest
moments of clarity and the ability to act on them.

MIND HACK 1:

Step One: With paper and writing instrument in hand close yourself off
in a quite spot for something like 5 to 15 minutes.

Step Two: Ask yourself this Question – If I could do anything….really anything
that you wanted to right now, what would it be? write down all the answers.

Step Three: Ask yourself: If you could do anything for the next one to four months what would
you do? Write down the answers.

Step Four: On a separate piece of paper write down all of the reasons why
you FELT like you could not do that now.

THEN burn that paper (with your objections) or destroy it in a dramatic way.

MIND HACK 2

The body is the past
The Mind is the future
BREATH is the now.

To be really connected to the moment. To begin to be really present and to
start to realize that you can be living right now rather than just thinking about
the future or fretting about the past, all you have to do is breath.

To get this mind hack, just read the FOUR FOLD BREATH.

Enjoy and start living in balance, even as you savor the past and
plan for the future.

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and Facebook.com/DavidFrees

For more of this thinking visit –

http://www.marcandangel.com/2013/03/12/one-thing-you-must-stop-doing-to-be-happy/

Or – Can We Even See Much Less Fix Our Own Flaws?

Brian Tracy recently published a Twitter post asking his followers
what habits, excuses, and flaws were holding them back from
the success that they claim to want. The claim to
want part being my words not his.

And identifying these nasty habits, as well as the excuses
we use to avoid doing what needs to be done to succeed is
obviously a noble undertaking.

But the thing is, that this post (limited of course to 140 words)
and the landing page of his blog on the subject, assume that
we, as humans, are capable of identifying our own filters,
shortcomings and bad habits.

And the absence of instruction on how to actually accomplish
change – assuming we know what needs changing – leads
me to assume that the self improvement wisdom simply
tells us what to do but not HOW TO DO IT.

But I think this is worth thinking about and that there are
actions we can take that make our path to success clearer
and success itself more likely. What’s more, there are things
that can be done. We can learn not just what to do but how to
go about doing it.

Well let’s take these problems one at a time.

First, there is good evidence, and probably your personal
experience confirms, that we are generally bad at examining our
own assumptions. The filters we use to understand and operate in
the big bad and complicated “real world” are like lenses that make
it simpler and clearer but which we cannot ourselves see. If they
were easily visible, they’d by definition be less effective.

So what’s a human who wants to get better at anything to do?

We have several options.

We can ask those around us, who work
with us, and with whom we live, what are bad habits are and what
excuses we use to avoid the things we don’t like or things that we need to do.

But there are inherent flaws to this approach. First, our flaws in one
context like our personal life may not be the same ones that
interfere with growth or optimal performance in a business or other setting.

Next, in each setting, the person may or may not have thought about
or be perceptive about such things and they may have incentives,
recognized by them or not, for being less than fully truthful.

We can schedule and allocate time to be introspective and to examine
times when we get success and times when we fail to act and to determine
what is holding us back and what our unexamined assumptions really are.

But doing this alone is tough work and inefficient at best.

We can undergo therapy with a behvior therapist who is outcome based and
looking for real world tools to help us to get from point A to point B.

We can find a coach that has demonstrated over and over again an
ability to work with someone like us and to help them to get breakthroughs
in behavior and results.

I have benefitted from this and many of the people who are my private and
group coaching clients, mastermind participants, and consulting clients report
that this alone is one of the most valuable parts of the process and is
worth the price of admission.

Each have their own costs, benefits, and detriments. Spending money on this
may seem an unnecessary expense but what value do you place on the loses
and money left on the table from failing year after year to make that
breakthrough that requires a new way of looking at yourself, and the world.

But doing something, really anything is better than leaving these issues unexamined.

And, whatever route you decide to take make the time to determine what
is holding you back AND what to do to make the change.

That then is the next installment. Once we figure out what we need and what
has, up until now been holding us back, what can we do to make the changes
work and to achieve the breakthrough to the next level.

Dave Frees
Dave Frees can be reached at 610-933-8069.

Dave is an attorney, author, and according to Steve Forbes, a Grand Master
of enhanced communications skills.

He teaches the skills of persuasion, influence and marketing to layers, C level
executives, and other professionals.

Dave divides his time between his speaking, publishing and consulting
and his law practice and between his home in Pennsylvania and his small
ranch in Cave Creek Arizona.
Want more products from Dave on Persuasion and Influence? Try
www.Persuasion2Profit.com

They are CEOs, artists, authors, musicians, authors, spies, political and
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and business leaders.

Be A Detective About The Secrets Of The Super Successful

Better yet, I was trained, before I met these super successful
geniuses by others who were geniuses in observing, modeling,
and interrogating people. So finding out what makes them work
and what motivates them as well as how to recreate it is something
I do well.

So for the last 20 years, that’s what I’ve been doing. I’ve been doing it
for 52 years if you count how long I’ve been observing my
parent who are pretty successful in their own right.

In case you’re wondering, I believe that I have become more successful
in many differnet aspects of my life than I would have been had I not
learned and practiced these habits, skills, and traits.

And you don’t have to believe me. Ask around. I’ve used what I’ve learned
to build wealth for myself and others. To raise my kids, write books, teach
and learn and to help a number of non profits, and you might even say
to protect freedom. I teach all the skills that have allowed me to do this in a
program. But here are a few to think about.

So what are these “secrets” of super success and how do you get
started on the path to putting them to work for yourself?

That’s right. I’m going to reveal not just what they know and what they do but also
how they do it and how you can do it!

1) The super successful have real clarity about what they want and
they keep working toward it

That doesn’t mean that they never give up on a particular way of
getting there but they are constantly, religiously, and regularly asking
themselves “Is this moving me closer to my clearly defined result or
not?” If the anser is no then they start working on the modified
plan.

But it’s not really a fall back plan. They haven’t given in or given up.

The goal is the same.

Only the tools being used or the path being explored is different.

So how do I get the skill/habit of clarity and evaluation?

Most of us think that we set bold, clear and specific goals and program
our minds to start working on achieving them.

Check again. It’s probably not true.

When was the last time you took a day, or two, or a week. Either alone or with a
successful firend or mentor to really clarify what you truely want? What it
looks, sounds and feels like? Why you want it?
What wonderful things would happen if you got it and what would you lose if you did?

Not everyone belives in or uses written goals but if you havent been as successfu
as you thought – up until now – without them then that’s a great place to start.

As for the monitoring, measurement, and evaluation that the super successful
use, it’s also a matter of doing it regularly.

Know someone who is super successful who is not testing, measuring his or her
progress? Probably not. But even if it seems that way they’re probably
just good and intuitive at this part.

For most of us we need a reminder system and we need to be regularly asking
ourselves if we are measuring what we are doing and if it’s moving us closer to
the goals. Do it daily, weekly and or monthly – but start doing it and set an
automatic reminder to do it and allow the time in your schedule to do it.

Most super successful people do it at the end of the day or at the sart of
the day/ week or month. Notice, annually is not on the list.

2) They keep working toward it and improving rather than
limiting the vision.

This one is simple I used to say I’d “like” to make a million dollars.

As I got better, I rephrased it say that I would make a million dollars.

As I studied what super successful people did, I discovered that they
set a goal related to what they’d do with the money, how it would change
their lives and when and how they’d achieve it.

But here’s a super trick.

I want to achieve _____________ OR GREATER by this date OR EARLIER.

Notice that this gets your brain thinking about the positive benefits
of the goal but allows that you could achieve something more or better
and sooner.

Think about this little thing for a moment.

It can change your life and the lives of others around you for the better.

So as your desired outcomes become clearer and as you start to achieve them
faster and more easily, don’t just accept them. Improve them.

Make them better, bolder, and more powerful.

And you may be surprised at how successful you’ve become as a
leader, in building wealth and creating positive change.

3) They are hard workers – it’s pretty simple.

The super successful people I know are all hard workers. They
are successful at building wealth, creating art, exploring spirituality, writing
books, poetry, music. They are successful in all kinds of ways.
But they all work hard – and often a lot.

True. Sometimes doesn’t look like they’re working.

But they are. And you’re probably saying “I wish that wasn’t
one of the traits or habits.”

But here’s a cool and reassuring secret.

Most people don’t want to work even a bit harder than they need to.

So becoming super successful often only requires that you be willing
and disciplined to work just a bit harder and a bit more often.

So feel like you’re working as hard as you can but you’re not yet
successful or super successful?

Take an inventory. I get a lot done in my life.

Many people ask me regularly how I do it. Well, I like hard work.
But I try to focus on working on what matters.

And if I don’t make time for the important stuff then silly, stupid and
unimportant stuff will take up my time.

So I use a calendar, a timer, and a schedule to make sure that I
can prioritize and get that stuff done.

Most super successful people I know have their vices, relaxation rituals,
and time wasters. But they don’t get lost or mired in them.

Try scheduling what matters and cut out a time waster or two.

If that sounds like too much of a sacrifice, then super success
may not be for you. That’s ok. But what will you miss out on
in return for another episode of Homeland? Just asking.

And to give you a sneak peak of one of the next secrets/habits,
they are good at getting other people to see the vision and to help
them get it done.

They are influential.

Want to become more influential? Click here for a simple tool
that teaches you how to use language patterns to become
not only persuasive and influential, but super successful.

Try it without risk.

Want more of the secrets of the super successful?

Stay tuned and follow me on Twitter or Facebook.

And check out the late and great Stephen Covey on this video
related to success and choice.

Thanks and enjoy.

How Will Farell Created Another Money Making
Machine and Are There Lessons Here For You And Me?

Just a few years ago, Will Farell created the web site
Funny or Die.

According to this video from the Wall Street Journal, the site has
become a successful platform for advertising embedded in the videos.
It’s not selling overtly, but letting viewers see the brand while
being entertained, and advertisers are paying.

As you watch this video interview, ask yourself if you can build a
resource, blog, web site, newsletter or other medium
for your niche market that is so desirable, that they come back,
over and over again or better yet share your content.

Can that site or other tool then be monetized for advertising,
or can it drive traffic directly to sites or other ways of monetizing that
traffic?

Can this be done in professional practices, small businesses
and on or off line businesses?

Watch and think about it.

So How Can You Use This Strategy?
Create a Youtube channel with niche specific actionable tips,
ideas and solutions to your niche’s problems and
publish regularly. Embed your own products and
services through testimonials and in the videos

Create a print or email based newsletter -
We currently do a news letter to give lawyers, and
finanicial advisers and acocuntant who refer to us
greeat marketing tools. It get opened and read all the
time. We do out own ads and advertorials as well as running
articles from clients on how they use our tools and ideas and resources.

There are many more. Wan to brain storm with other smart
professionals, executives and business men and women
about how they do this?

Click 3 Days To Success for more on business masterminding.

Want to know more about covert persuasion and becoming more
influential in any thing you do knowing that people don’t like
to be sold but that they love to buy – they just want to discover the
truth themselves.

How would your life be better or richer if people said
yes to you more often?

This tool can help.

Want to see the whole Tom Brady video?
http://youtu.be/q2CA0_UE4yU

Enjoy and be prosperous and profitable.

Now on the surface this seems like a video about swimming…
but it’s a very short lesson in learning and doing new things.

He’s speaking at TED so it’s short.

Pay very close attention to the idea that experts can tell us a lot,
save us an enormous amount of time, and can make us better.
But, experts are experts in part because they have vast amounts of
knowledge that are implicit (that they don’t even know to tell us)
as well as explicit knowledge (that stuff that they can tell us and teach us
from conscious awareness).

So where do you go from here if you want to start getting better results
in anything you do or to learn and then do something new – that you’ve
always wanted to do?

First, become better at getting information from yourself and others.

Become expert at negotiating, discovering and then implementing new
skills and enhancing old ones by knowing what to ask, how to ask, what to say, and
how to say it in order to truly learn the most from experts and to get the best results
from that knowledge.

Unless you can find experts, get them to happily talk to you, and to discern
what they really know and even get at the secret stuff that’s implicit to them,
then you cannot and will not become a overnight expert yourself.

But once you know how to get the interview, model the expert and get yourself to
do it, then you can start getting amazing results, faster and more efficiently than you
ever thought possible. So how can you learn to be come more persuasive and influential
fast?

So how can I help?

Here’s a related post with a few more ideas to the topic.

Next, understand that I’m an expert in enhanced communication and persuasion.

I learned to get information when I learned to use these skills for interrogation and even
as a comedian and later a paid speaker, coach to executives, business and political leaders,
and as a marketing consultant.

And I have now distilled and applied them in every situation from corporate and professional
copy writing and marketing to parenting and family communications.

Now what I’ve done is a full brain dump.

I’ve interrogated myself (actually, I had a professional interrogate me) and put together a
comprehensive and step by step system to make you an expert communicator.

With this product I walk you through each strategy and each tactic of
persuasion, communication and influence. So that by the time your done – you’ll need
just a few hours and then some practice each week, you’ll be able to
learn to do what you want – faster and more elegantly.

Basically, being more persuasive, more influential and a better communicator
makes yo better at everything you do now and will make you better at learning
and doing anything you aspire to do.

For more information about the Persusion2Profit system, click here.

Have you ever seen a performance, or watched someone who
had an amazing skill, or was able to do something that you didn’t
yet know or understand? But you wanted desperately to be able to
do that thing>

Have you ever wondered how you could learn to do that thing?
How your life would be bigger, better and richer if you did?
If you could?

And what if you could do it exceptionally well?

Well, there are ways that we can learn to do things – even new
and seemingly impossible things – more quickly, effectively, and at a
higher level than you ever thought possible.

And, there are a number of tools available to help you to produce these
amazing and seemingly impossible results in your business and your life.

So what are we talking about?

And why do I think that you can surprise yourself and those around you
and start making changes, and doing new and
difficult things better than many people ho have tried and failed and better
even than many “experts” who have been learning and doing these things
for much longer?

Well the what do you want to do part is up to you.

Would you like to learn a new language? Play the piano? Become a radically
better marketer, chess player, surfer, dancer, athlete?

What ever you want, there is a place where:
1) your existing skills/strengths,
2) the 20% of strategies and tactics that matters the most,
3) the implicit and explicit knowledge of your “mentor/teacher” and
4) your ability to learn absorb and implement them coincide to produce faster and
dramatic results in anything you determine to undertake than most people think
possible.

So if you could learn to do something new, to get fantastic results and to achieve
at a higher level that you imagined, what would you choose?

Go ahead.

Make a list of two or three skills, abilities, or qualities that
you’d like to have.

Now pick the one that would make the most improvement in your life,
that you’d most enjoy having, and that might also enrich you in other ways as well.

Still skeptical about your ability to achieve this and to reap the numerous benefits
of becoming great at something you’ve always wanted but never achieved?

Good.

Skepticism is a healthy thing. But not if it holds you back from something
otherwise achievable and wonderful.

So let me show you a few examples of people who have done this before we
get to the HOW DO YOU DO IT part.

I was always a good student but was shy and awkward (and covered that up with a babbling
self talk and bothersome and constant bragging to others about things that mattered
not at all to them). So not surprisingly, I was not so good with people. I was disconnected,
failed to really listen, and didn’t really understand what they wanted or what
was really important to them – even when I thought I was listening to them.

I went to New Zealand as an exchange student and was determined to
become better, to make friends in that new land and to be both a good
student and a fun person to be around.

I discovered a few of these steps, and surprisingly became a public speaker,
a comedian, a much better student and a (and I’m quoting here) “really fun person
to be around”.

I decided I wanted to become better at languages and while I’m not fluent, I
can get around in several and while traveling have used my Greek, Korean, Thai,
and Spanish to order food, get directions, and to enhance my experience in
many countries.

Despite the fact that my guidance counsellor told me not to “over reach”
(advice I ignored, I applied to and got into Ivy League schools including law schools
and became a skilled (but friendly) interrogator, a
professional speaker and I met and married an awesome, beautiful and
incredible wife who is the mother of our three great children. And all
of this I ascribe to becoming a better communicator and listener by modeling
great interrogators, communicators and persuaders.

And now executives, business owners, corporations, professionals and
professional associations, marketing companies and other sophisticated
business people seek me out to help them with their communications and marketing.

I’ve learned to learn and then to do based on a few principals that make me better
and faster at learning and doing new skills than I thought possible.

And now for the last few years I’ve learned how to help others to reproduce the results
and improvements that they want to achieve by using these same strategies.

Who else has done this… and way better than me?

Tim Ferris (for more on Tim’s story click here).

Tim Ferris went to Japan as an exchange student and while he desperatly
wanted to learn the language, six months into his stay he was struggling
to learn and use the basics.

He discovered a secret and within months was becoming fluent. When
he returned to the United States and took the SAT II in Japanse he outscored
a friend that was a native speaker.

Later in life he decided that he wanted to be a kick boxing champion. So he went
to China to learn and compete i n the world kick boxing championship.

Tim speaks at TED

The full story is told in the The 4-Hour Workweek: Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Rich (Expanded and Updated)Four Hour Work Week. But the bottom line? Within
a few months he became a champion in his weight class.

A short time later he moved to Argentina and within months made the semifinals
of the international Tango Championship.

So here is someone who has mastered the ability to model, learn, and execute.
He has become a master of: 1) deciding what he wants, 2) finding out how to do it,
and then 3) mastering and enjoying the doing of it at a very high level.

So what is the secret of doing all three things?

Well, there is a process that makes this easier and faster than most people
think possible. Suprisingly, I most recently came across a great description
of this process in a cook book. In that book, The 4-Hour Chef: The Simple Path to Cooking Like a Pro, Learning Anything, and Living the Good LifeThe Four Hour Chef, Tim Ferris uses
this process to encourage the reader not just to learn to cook but to become an
excpetional cook and to make cooking part of an enhanced life. Not just
to become better, but to become radically better at the parts of cooking that
matter the most.

The developers of NLP and brief therapy also set out an exceptional set of
tools for modeling and reproducing great results in any important undertaking.

But to get you started and to help you to realize that there are multiple systems
and strategies that can help you to transform your life and to acquire and to enjoy
“mad new skills,” here are the essentials to this secret formula.

There is a place where the following intersect:
1) Things you really enjoy and/or passionately desire
2) A set of skills that can be distilled from experts
3) A break down of the conscious and unconscious skill
(Typically masters are able to articulate certain information and other such skills, steps, and
process are outside of their conscious awareness in part because they are experts)
4) An understanding of the skills that matter the most 80/20 rule
(This means finding the fewest skills that give you the vast majority of the best results)
5) Your natural strengths that can be used in learning and activating these essential skills

So if we can find (by interviewing, training with, and modeling the masters) the skills,
strategies and methods that make them great then we can also determine which of these
matter the most and help to get the best, fastest and most thorough results.

Once we have done that, we can find the ones that we can do best given our
natural strengths.

That place in the ven diagram – where all five of the above meet and overlap,
is a magical place where real and exceptional skills and results can be forged or
discovered and honed.

Other matters that matter – upcoming topics for article on enhancing performance
and getting better results in everything from food to maketing your business product or
practice:

The order of things – Why the sequence/syntax matters
mastering the skills of the masters – Specific steps for learning what they really know and do
How to use the 80/20 rule for maximum results – Finding out what matters

Thanks for thinking about how to improve your business and your life.

To Improved Performance and Results!

Dave Frees

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The Skills of Negotiation and Persuasion

In this exciting clip from The Fifth Element, there are
actually two forms of negotiation portrayed by Bruce Willis.

The first uses a covert skill of persuasion.

Notice that the negotiator – Bruce Willis – benefits from
advanced research and knowledge.

The second is a more forceful and dramatic approach…

It’s good to be versatile.

So here are a few more important strategies, resources and tactics.

Resources and Tactics:

Read the book: Getting Past No by Ury

Follow me on Facebook for alerts on persuasion, influence and negotiation

Use a checklist. Here’s one you can use until you develop your own.

Strategy:

Being a better communicator and understanding human communication,
decision making and the biology of these tools makes you better at everything -
including negotiation.

Here are two resources for that:

Follow this blog and review the persuasion and influence articles.

And…
Persuasion2Profit.com

So if you know or suspect, that There Really There Are Secrets of Persuasion and Influence
That Can Help You To Change Your Business And Your Life From The Moment They’re
Revealed And You Start Using Them - Then click here for a risk free way of learning
to apply them.

If you haven’t yet found the freedom, success, and profit that you’ve been looking for,
then commit to changing everything by becoming both more persuasive, trusted,
and more influential each and every day and in more and more areas of your life….
almost effortlessly.

Why do you want to be more persuasive and in what areas of your life?
How would your life be different if you were more influential?
How would your marketing, sales, personal interactions be more effective and enjoyable?

If you’ve thought about any one or more of these questions, then you probably know that
there are times in your life when you just cannot seem to get your point across, to
influence a person who is important to you, or when you just need some help with your
marketing, sales and copy.
For more on the skills of persuasion and influence as well as negotiation click here.

How often do you do a self assessment/evaluation to make sure that
you’re where you want to be or really on course for where you
want to be going?

If you don’t periodically schedule and take the time, then the day
to day events and the currents that they create can seep you way
and way off course from your desired outcomes.

For me? I try to do an 80/20 assessment in various areas of my
life monthly so that in the course of the year I have taken some time
in each area. The time should be short but can yield results
that are huge.

SIDE NOTE: Want a count down timer so that you can determine -
in advance- how much time to spend on an activity like this (or social
media and/or email)? Try http://e.ggtimer.com/ It’s free and powerful.

Often, you can get major improvement without a lot of fan fare of even
precision in these self assessments. A great tool to get loads of actionable
information fast? 80/20 questions.

For example – in the area of relationships: What are the three or four
relationships that I currently have in my life that create 80% or more of the
anxiety (or name another negative emition you’ve been experienceing) in my life?

Take a minute. Actually write them down. Go with your first instinct.
You might be surprised.

Now, I’m not saying that we are not personally responsible for our state of
happiness or anxiety. We are. But if there are people in your life that are
taking enery and creating a disproportionate amount of pain while there are
others who seem to create the vast majority of hapiness in your life…..
then you might want to adjust how you spend your time.

Another use might be in the business or finance areas of your life.
You might ask: “Who are the clients creating 80% or more of our profits or the
financial or business strategies creating 80% or more of our investment return?

And conversely, who are the cleints/customers creating 80% of the problems or the
strategies that only add modestly to ROI but create confusion or take way from time
to be spent on other areas of life?Armed with this information (be sure that it’s accurate
and not wishful thinking) you might allocate time and resources differently.

Try creating your own list of 80/20 Questions in various areas of your life.

Schedule regular times to do self assessment in these areas and use the count
down timer to minimize the time, improve the results, and get the best
ROI.

Then, review the self assessment and take action to improve each area.

Need more ideas like this? Coaching to make it happen?
Exposure to bright successful people that use these and other mind hacks to
make great businesses and lifestyle?

Then join me in Tampa or Phoenix for upcoming events and learn more
at http://www.3DaysToSuccess.com or call Lisa for private coaching.

I can only take a few private clients per year so let me know if you’re interested.

To An Even Better Life
Dave Frees

Robert Cialdini does an elegant review with a brief discussion of the science.
Loaded with examples.

Want to make the 6 Strategies of Influence even more effective?

Knowing how we process communications and being able to
use langauge in a way to enhance each and every one of the Cialdini techniques
makes them even more powerful

For an easy to use program that can change the way that you
communicate, the results you get and the power of your marketing,
click here for more secret communications skills.